Brandon on the Nashville Dad's Podcast

00:00Welcome to Nashville Restaurant Radio, the tastiest hour of talk in Music City. Now here's your host, Brandon Styll. Hello Music City and welcome to Nashville Restaurant Radio. My name is Brandon Styll and I am your host. We are powered by Gordon Food Service. We have an interesting show for you today. This is a simulcast show with the Nashville Dads podcast. So Justin and Devin are two guys that are local dads and they do a podcast and they talk about dad stuff. And this is my second time on the show. And since we're kind of doing a little bit of a break right now, I thought, hey, it'll be fun to put this out on our channel.

01:00Can I do it the same day you guys do it? And so they said, sure, let's do that. So today's episode is about me. I'm going to be interviewed by Justin and Devin of the Nashville Dads podcast and I'm just playing it here. Nothing to really with restaurants. I'll talk about my job a little bit, but really dad content is what we're doing here. And I just love these guys. They came on the show or I was on their show, I don't know, six, eight months ago. And they use the studio here for Nashville restaurant radio and they were doing it out of their kitchen. And when I was on the show, I said, well, why don't you come just record the episode here in the studio? And they were like, this is great. And I said, great. Well, why don't you guys use the studio? So they've been using the studio, renting the studio ever since. So this is a kind of a fun episode. If you are out there kind of like the Nashville dads and you have a podcast or an idea for a podcast, this studio could be available for you too.

02:02I have space for two to three more podcasts to come in and use it. You can use the studio whenever you want timing wise. It doesn't matter. There's a 24 hour access and I have monthly plans that are pretty cheap. It's not about $25 an hour for you to come in and use a professional studio to record your podcast. If you need a spot like that, send me a DM at Brandon underscore in RR on Instagram, or you can find our page. It is the new light podcast studio here on Facebook. You can find our page. You can see pictures of it, see what it is. It seats about four people. It's audio only. If you want to bring a video and video it somehow, no problem. You are welcome to do that. But yeah, we've got a few more spaces for some more podcasts to come in here and use. If you're a restaurant and you want to do your own podcast or whatever it is, we would be happy to entertain that opportunity. Lots of fun stuff going on with that.

03:04So this episode is a lot of fun and I hope that you guys had a great Thanksgiving. We did an episode where we did the best of our final thoughts and we're going to do another one of those here probably in a couple of weeks. But Caroline and I talked today and we're going to do kind of a year end wrap up of all of the things where we talk about the interviews we had, talk about what's going on in life. She's busy with St. Nicky's right now and I'm busy with Mary Bowles. So we're going to get through the holidays and then we are planning and plotting and scheduling out interviews for the new year. And I am so excited to bring you guys a full slate, a full slate of all the new restaurants, bring back some people, some more interesting conversations. We want to get in and talk to more people in the industry, servers, bartenders who have their perspectives, downtown, all kinds of stuff, maybe a couple of remotes, but lots of neat things we're planning on doing here in 2024.

04:07But today you get to listen to me talk about being a dad on the Nashville Dads podcast. Find Nashville Dads wherever you listen to podcasts. I know they're on Apple and Spotify and it is great to be back in the studio and I hope that you enjoy this episode. Randy, first repeat guest ever for the podcast. I am very excited about. Oh wait, wait, wait. Oh yeah. Come on. Because I got the board. You have the board. Oh my gosh. Yes, first repeat guest. Thank you. I feel honored. So much cheese right there. I love it. Yes. I mean, it's cool to have you back on because like literally whenever we had you on the first time, we showed up in your studio and we're like, hey, this isn't Justin's house. So how do we do this? So we've hopefully figured out some footing since then.

05:07Well, it was very unorthodox because we just sat down and just started talking. It's like over recording and it was like two hours later when we were just talking about everything. It wasn't like a setup. No, like I'm used to coming in and going, are you guys ready? Super excited to welcome in and do like an actual show. Yeah. And it was just so casual. Very casual. It's like, oh shit, we're recording. Like, okay, here we go. And so, no, I'm excited to sit down and like, and actually have intentionality, have intentionality and say, what are we talking about? Let's talk about dad stuff. Let's talk about that. I mean, you talked about a lot of dad stuff before. Yes. We're all over the map last time. What? Are your kids still super into Pokemon? No. No? What are they into now? They're not super into Pokemon. I think dad's credit card stopped buying them Pokemon. Oh, it's interesting how that works out. It's amazing. Pokemon is expensive. Is it really? Yeah. All the cards. Yeah. I mean, they're, they're like $4 a pack and you get 10 cards and if there's not like a special card and the kids just like open the pack and they're like, meh, meh, I'm like, your allowance is $10 a week and two packs, like they don't understand that value.

06:23And like around Christmas last year, we went to the card shop and I bought like a box, like 36 packs. It's like a hundred bucks for the box, right? Yeah. So it's a little cheaper if you buy a whole box, but we sat there and just opened these cards and it was just like the most magical thing. You know, I'll probably do that again this year just because it was so much fun. That is really fun. But like, you can't do that all the time. And it lasts like 10 minutes because you get like 12 packs each. And they open 12 packs of cards in like seven minutes. Maybe less. Yeah. And they get like four cards out of those 12 packs that they like. And then like, oh, I'll do that again. It's like gambling. I think it's like water balloons. Whenever you fill up a bunch of water balloons for kids and then 30 seconds later, they throw 500 water balloons and they're like, where are the rest of them? And you're like, that was $100 of water balloons. That's where Costco comes into like the Costco boxes of water balloons or where it's at. And it fills up like 30 at once and thank God this exists.

07:24But I've done that multiple times at kid birthday parties. Where was that when we were little? No kidding. That was so awesome. I feel like your fingers would be like torn up from literally tying them. They were. For hours. I mean, I kids have no idea what it's like. Like when we saw like a bucket of water balloons, it was like, there was some serious work put into this. It was like, we spent hours filling these balloons and now they just hooked that thing up to the spigot. Yeah. And it's like 12 seconds later, they've got 25 balloons. Perfect. Yup. Yup. Just throw them around. Kids these days. It's a whole thing. So if your kids aren't that much into Pokemon, have they moved on to something different or? They love Fortnite. They are big into the game. So we have like stopped doing gaming throughout the week because they both have like their gaming setups in their rooms. And it's a whole thing and they're really into it. And they were into that previous to like everything else.

08:26And they have no more money spent on any of that stuff. We've gone through like a major budget in the house. We're like, it's probably good. Not gonna happen. Because Fortnite, you still have to like buy the extras or whatever it is, right? Oh man. Yeah. Nothing is free. Well, they have like all these skins and stuff. I mean, they got really spoiled for a little while. And I was like, this has to stop. Like there was a moment where we just kind of were like, yeah, it's okay. And then little comments here or there they'd make like, it's only $20 or like, excuse me? Like only $20. Like you have no sense of what $20 is to buy the Dwayne the Rock Johnson skin. Look at him, the rock. And it's like, cool. It's not worth $20 to me. And then that's going to go away. So they're big into soccer now. Now they're actually playing sports. We've got them away from the games as much as we possibly could. They're playing soccer. And my oldest son is really into basketball.

09:26We've got a basketball goal outside and he shoots a hundred shots a day and he's out there practicing. And we've had, I've had the most special past week and a half, like as a dad. And I don't know. It's one of those really cool things because my oldest William has been playing soccer for years. This is like his third year and he's always played defense and he sits outside and he practices his footwork and he does all this stuff. But on defense, you don't necessarily, it's really in a, you got to go get the ball and stop it and kick it on the field, but you're waiting a lot of times to play. And so now he's playing indoor and I said, dude, and he's kind of like, I'm kind of done playing soccer. It's kind of boring. I'm like, well, you need to play forward. You need to get, be an attacker and use some of those skills you've been practicing. So he talked to the coach and the coach said, okay, well, you can let you play forward. And then in practice, he's like, no, you need to be playing forward. So last week he scored his first goal. That's awesome, man. Right. And congrats. You know, of all the, as a dad, you know, it's like the first home run or the first thing.

10:30It's that pinnacle moment in that game where you score a goal and he scored a goal. And I was in, I was, I was really in tears, you know, like where you see him. Score the goal and then he turns around and he like, looks at you and he's like, pumps his fist and you look at him and you're just like, dude, you did it, man. Like, and you know that it, you don't, you don't care about the score. There's just that moment of confidence that, you know, he got from that and you know that like all that hard work, like pays off and his little body is right there. He's just like on cloud nine and as a dad, you just, after the game, I had this moment where I was like, dude, I'm so proud of you, man. And I, and I, like a minute later I stopped and I said, Hey, I just want to tell you like, I'm proud of you for getting on the field and playing. I'm proud of you for putting in the effort and the practice and the hard work and all of that.

11:32I'm shared excitement for you for scoring the goal. Yeah. I'm proud of you for the result that you got. I'm proud of you for the effort and getting to that result. I'm excited for that. It was like one of those weird moments where I kind of realized like, Hey, I don't want to encourage you being proud of you for the achievement. I'm proud of you for the effort and excited with you for that achievement. So that was last Saturday. So yesterday where I drove him separately to the game and I told my wife, I, she was going to get a present for a friend. We had a 40th birthday party last night we went to, and I took him to the game myself and I told him, I said, okay, here's what we're going to do today. All right. It's an indoor thing. I go, there's no offsides, but like, if you're going to play forward, you're hanging back too far. You're hanging back about 15, 20 feet from the goal. I go when the, cause he's got a kid who's on the team who's like really good and he hits, he kicks the ball with just massive speed. The goalie never catches it.

12:32Like he knocks it down. You need to work on the rebound, like you need to get in front of the net, get in front of the net. And that ball's just bouncing around. He's like, what do you mean? I go rebounds. We're doing basketball. I said, when they shoot the ball, go through the whole story. And so we're walking in and I go, dude, I'll bet you could score three goals today if you just do this. And he's like, okay, I'm going to try and remember and I go, I'm going to yell rebound and that's going to be your signal to go to the net. You just got to go to the net. And so in the game, like two minutes into the game, he's in and I go rebound and he goes right to the net and the dude passed to him. And he was like wide open, like a, like a open shot at the goal. And he scored within like the first two minutes of the game. And I was just like standing up freaking out, like, oh my God, he did it. And then like in the 12th, he came out of the game and then came back in the game and scored a second goal. And I was like, oh my God, like now I'm freaking out from another rebound or no, the first one was like a breakaway.

13:35Like he got passed the ball and he was like wide open in front of the net and made it. The second one was another one where he was probably eight feet out, but just like launched it right in the corner and missed it. And he, but he turned around and was like, looked at me and was like, that's two man. And I was like, yes. And then with like six minutes left in the side, there's two 20 minute halves with like six minutes left in the, in the second, he hit the third and he scored three goals. So he got the hat trick. And so like the buddy of mine threw a hat against the wall and we're like freaking out. It was, it was, it was pretty, it was pretty rad as a dad. Like it was one of those, like seeing how his confidence in the first goal that he scored going into that next game, like, oh, so if I just kicked the ball at the net, like how that manifests itself in the second game, it's like, oh, I can score it. Will now. And it's like how much mindset goes to that, like just get in there and play and be aggressive and kick the ball towards the net. So yeah, so it's been, that's been my, I don't know, it's pretty damn, pretty damn special.

14:39That's pretty cool. How many games has he been playing forward now? Just two. This is his second game playing forward and he scored four goals. Yeah. And two games. So it was like, Hey man, you're in the right. Yeah. You were getting tired of this game. You don't want to play defense. And now you're in here and being given it's indoor and there's a lot of opportunities to score if you're in the right place. But as a spectator, you see the balls bouncing right there. And so then he like chimed in like, Oh, so if I go to this place, that's where the ball is. I'm like, yeah, it's like a strikers intuition basically of like, you just know where to place your body and where to finish. And if you can figure out that skill, that young of an age, that's pretty fun. That's pretty cool. It was pretty, it's so he's. Kind of riding high and he's like, okay, so if I practice the idea of a, Hey, if I listen to my dad, he, he's going to give me good advice and he's going to listen to me. And then two, just that if I practice and put the work in, there's a payoff to it, you know, and seeing like, okay, that, that little bit of success that he's having, which is a lot of success yesterday, but like seeing that success is like, okay.

15:50And I haven't pushed that on him. You know, he's 10. So I've seen, you know, we're, we're playing at seven year olds and there's seven year olds out there. I'm like, how often do you guys have like a personal coach? Like how are these kids so good? And I'm like, I never wanted to be that dad that was like, you will get out there. And like, I've kind of let him go at his own pace. And now he's seeing, Oh, so if I put that work in, this is what happens. And it's, but he's seen it on himself, not somebody else pushing him. Yes. I haven't, it hasn't been a, you need to do this. This is the standard is excellence. And I haven't. Yeah. You're not waking them up at five AM back. Hey, you haven't done your drills yet, man. A lot of people that I graduated with that had that type of, uh, relationship with their dad, it ended up going south. Why? I don't yet. I, I, I don't, I certainly don't want there to be this. I've seen it in a couple of moments, you know, where you feel let down or you're at the end of the game, he did something wrong in that.

16:51And I am human. So I'm like, dude, you could have done this and you see his little head go down and you're like, but it's like, I never want him to feel like he's not good enough or less than, or any of those things, you just constantly want to. Reinforce like the, the behavior of it's okay. That's why I love sports because sports isn't about winning all the time. It's about learning how to be on a team. How do you be a good teammate? How do you pick up other people when they're down? It teaches you empathy to be in other people's shoes, but it's great to learn how to win and to have that feeling, to know what winning feels like. But I think there's equal power in losing, like losing that conversation of, Hey, look, what happened there? What do you think you could have done differently or how could you have responded to your teammates when they were down, how can you go over and put your arm around somebody else and say, it's okay, we'll get them next time. We can do better next time. And let's look at what we can do differently or that you can respect how good somebody else is.

17:54You know, it's those moments that you can teach that I think are super important. Sports has a lot to do with work ethic for when you're older, working in a job as well. Um, my boss, like when I got into the position that I was doing as an operations man, he was like, you like basketball, right? And I was like, yeah. He was like, think of yourself as the point guard. You are to lead, you are to distribute, you are to make sure that people are in the right spot. And I was like, man, I never really thought of that, but yeah, I mean, he's, he's right. And then as far as the, the losing, yeah, you're going to have, you're going to be losing in the job market or wherever you're at as well. And your career, not like losing your job, but you're going to have failures and learning that failure early on through sports, man. I mean, I know lots of people who like, I feel like are like you get to their like mid twenties or early thirties and they have their first taste of failure and they have no idea how to deal with it.

18:55And it's like, you're like, Hey man, like you're actually okay. And they just, they, um, you have to experience failures. It's going to happen. So if you can do it while your dad or parents is there to hold you to look at you and be like, Hey, you're still like, you're still a good person. Like I'd much rather have that opportunity. Yeah. I think that that dad you're talking about Justin with the, with the every morning, like, I don't think that losing to them looks like that. I think losing to them looks like you're not good enough. You need to work better. You're and there's a, there's so much shame that happens in that. And I think that I see it in men all the time, just this, I have to be the best, the most macho. And it's like really the superpowers vulnerability. And that's where the real leadership comes in is when you can say, Hey, I'm not real good at that. Can you help me? I don't, that scared me. And I don't know how to respond in this particular situation. I think most men turn around and go, Oh yeah, well I'll make it up because I, I can't show somebody that I'm not wrong.

19:58Cause the thing that was taught to me was that's bad. That's bad and that's wrong. And that's weakness. And it's like, no, dude, it's, you can't be good at everything. There's some things you can be great at and you know, great help coach other people in that world, help them get better, but really it's okay to say, I don't know how to do that. That's why you have other people on your team. I don't know how to do that. Do you? Oh, great. You do. Okay. Oh, you don't cool. That's a, put out a job position. See if we can figure this thing out. But I think that's all that's, you know, you're talking about the point guard, I look at it as almost like the head coach, you know, Bill Belichick doesn't get on the field. It's something I've been struggling with because I like to be in the game. I like to be right in the middle and it's like, Hey, you got to stand on the sidelines sometimes and really coach people on how to do it really well. And then encourage them and watch, let them fail because when they fail, then you can go back and do the after-action review and coach them through it and actively help them get better.

21:02And I think so many leaders just want to get in and do the job versus coaching people. So it's like, the point guard is an active leader in the game, but that coach on the sideline is watching and seeing it all and coaching and developing. And that's the place I feel like I'm in right now with my work and with my, just being a dad, like I want to get in there and do it, but it's like, you have to kind of be on the sidelines. And that's really hard for me because I'm, I still feel like I'm 25. You know, I don't really, I'm 44. I don't, I'm like, I want to, I don't play intramural sports at all or anything. Cause I, I dive and I do crazy shit. Like you give it your all. I give it because I don't realize I'm old and I get out there. I'm tall and I'm at the next day and you're like, Oh, okay. I blow your ankle out. And you're like, why did I, why did I do that? And why did I dive head first into second base? Like, cause you wanted to win. Yeah, I think it's, I think a lot of getting older also is just realizing like, Hey, you're a competitive person. What does that mean?

22:02If you're in a competitive situation, you're going to compete. Okay, cool. You just have to be acknowledged who you are. We were at a, this four-year birthday party last night and we were playing like, there was like bar games type thing, flip cup and you know, all these different games and we were outside by the fire pit and somebody, Hey, we're going to play some games inside. Who wants to come in? And I was like, back when I was a drinker, I, I would like alienate myself cause I would go in and be like, we're going to fucking take this. No, let's go, let's go, let's go. And it's like, I don't need to do that. You don't need to be that person. It's okay. We can let other like, it's not a, and I've learned like, that's what maturity does. Like I don't have to win it. Everything. It's a party. Let's have fun. It's okay. Hey, I've done that once or twice before. I feel like you play like a board game as a family in there. I can't, but seriously, this is the rule and we have to follow the rule. And it's like, so no one's having fun now. And it's your fault. You can't sell your houses.

23:05No, no, you can't. No, you only own two of the houses. You can't. Yeah. No, it's dad. I'm six. Yeah. I don't care. I don't care. There are rules. Yeah. Nope. It's a fun thing. I'm getting older. Just knowing like when I'm in this situation, I become this person. What does that mean? It's your responsibility to try to not put yourself in that situation because you will become this person almost every time. Yeah. So how's the podcast going guys? Like how is everything? Well, last time we talked, it was like, you had never, you hadn't, you were somebody's kitchen. Yeah. We have Justin's kitchen, my kitchen, my living room, or up in my bonus room. You were our third guest. I think third, maybe fourth, but now you're in a studio every week. How has this changed the game for you? Like, how's this, how's it going? Well, I mean, we were releasing episodes bi-weekly back then in the middle of the year, we started releasing episodes. Weekly. We've now, we're an interview only podcast. We've met with, oh gosh, I forget how many, I think if we do it, like if we released an episode every single week, then we would have released like 45 episodes this year.

24:05Last year we did like 26. We've now met with the mayor. We've met with like soccer Moses. We've met with like, the community we've been able to find is really cool and really lucky. And having this definitely helps us like just grow and feel more confident. At least I feel more confident. I think in my kitchen, my friend Todd came on and he was like, Oh, so like you actually do this in a studio and you don't hear kids fighting outside the door and it's like, yeah, it's a very different experience. We lose some of the authentic Nashville dad thing. Cause the kids aren't, you don't have chance. Like if you don't stop that, I will rip your head off. Like there's none of that breaks to be like, I gotta go take care of something real quick or my wife saying, Hey, that's not how it was the wife real time fact checking your conversation. So, but no, it's been, um, I think this went from a random hobby we had in Justin's kitchen to like actually now meeting people, building community. And, um, every week we meet up, it's like, Oh, what else can this become? Like you get to see all the new opportunities that something that's you enjoy doing can help other people.

25:10Yeah. You guys do a, like a meetup at Shelby bottoms, right? Yeah. We do a dad walk, which is more Justin's thing realistically. Yeah. So I, uh, I'm, I was, I'm big on cheese for everything as far as just cheesy type of stuff. Hell yeah. So I was, uh, before we had Ada, I watched, uh, what to expect when you're expecting. Have you ever watched that movie or heard of that movie? It has like Chris rock and yes, I have seen it. It's been a long time. It's something it's silly, but they had a dad walk where yeah. Okay. Would walk around central park. And I was like, man, that's actually pretty cool. Like they, they created a bond together. They created a community and, um, I was like, let's try that here. Yeah. And it was just me and Devin, uh, walking around our neighborhood for a little while. And then like more people wanted to join. Then we went to Shelby bottoms. Now we have a group me set up of like 20 plus people that, wow, they don't all come at the same time.

26:13But the interest went from like, we could fit it into one group text to like, Hey, you can't add any more people to the context. You have to go to messages. So that's pretty cool. Yeah. It's growing and, and the community's awesome meeting. Um, I feel like a new dad every single walk. Yeah. So, or yeah, people will message us. And my favorite dad walk story is you told me the one guy who showed up and he, he were like, Oh man, how'd you hear about the dad walk? And he was like, I don't know. My wife put it in the calendar. Yeah. He had no idea. We even did a podcast. He was like podcast. He was like, I was like, yeah, that's how this whole started. He was like, Oh, my wife just told me to show up and I just showed up. Well, cool. All right. Let's check in with you guys. I'm sorry. I'm taking over the interview. Yeah, that's okay. Yeah. Yeah. You have, how many children do you have? I just have one. You have one. She is a little over two, little over two. I have three, three, seven, five and two year old seven, five and two. And I have two boys that are eight and eight and a half and 10. Okay. Yeah. So they're really close in age.

27:13Yeah. Yeah. They're both starting to ride in the front seat. Oh, that's a, Oh, my kids are very looking forward to that day. That is that I took them both to brunch this morning at mayor bowl. Cause I wanted to give my wife some time to just this morning. I'm coming here this afternoon. We've got some stuff later on. I'm like, let me take the kids for like a couple hours. I'll take them to brunch at my restaurant. Let's go. And so the younger one was like, I go, Hey, if you call shotgun, you can sit in the front seat cause now, now we're dealing with shotgun calling. I call shotgun like, no, I call shotgun. Like it's a whole thing. And we were driving to the, and they're both there. They're 20 months apart, but they're both the same height, same weight. Like they're really the, the one who's 20 minutes, the eight and a half year old is that he's a giant. I mean, he's a big kid, but he, so he reaches all the things that are to ride in the front seat now also. And, um, so we get in the car and Matthew's in the front seat. William's in the back seat. He's like, this sucks. And I said, what do you mean? He's like, I mean, I'm like, I hate how close we are in age.

28:17And I said, why? I go, that's like the greatest gift in the world to have a brother who's right there. He's like, no, I should have had like a year to ride in the front seat without like the second that I get to ride in the front seat, he does too. It seems like everything I get to do, he gets to do. And I got two years where I didn't get to do any of this stuff. And he's not wrong. Like, he's not wrong. It's a legitimate complaint. Yeah. I was like, what do you do? You're like, you just kind of looked at him. I put my arm behind a tap on the leg and I was like, thanks for being a good kid. Sorry, bro. I get it. You know, the one in the front seat is just cause you suck. Not help. That's not helping. Do what are your shotgun rules? Our shotgun rules were you would yell shotgun. Then whoever made it to the car first would determine who got it first. No, we don't. We have not established it. Whoever calls shotgun first at this point, we have not established like actual rules yet. Maybe we need to do that.

29:18Unless it was you had to be able to see the car. Yeah, definitely. First person to say it. You have to see the car. Yeah. OK. Yeah. Well, because if not, then you step outside and you need to scream shotgun. Then they're shoving each other out of the door frame. We're like, hey, guys, we're going to the store. Shotgun. I mean, it's like the first person. Once you establish that you're going to be in the car, the first one who yells it. Correct. And that's so we're we're kind of like. So I said, whoever yells it first gets it on the way there. Then the other one, because I have two. That's smart. When I was growing up, there's three of us. I have an older brother and younger sister. Yeah. So it was different because it wasn't like there's a two way trip. Ninety nine percent of the time we go somewhere. So one, whoever calls it first can get it on the way there. And now we haven't done it because my wife would make it for people. So if she's in the there's no shotgun, she's always she is the, you know, shotgun queen. She said, this is her seat. This is what it is. So we haven't dealt with that yet, because they'll start talking her into it.

30:20Mom, come on, let me sit in the front seat, mom. And she'll be like, I don't care. I'll sit in the back. And I'm like, no, on principle. No, you sit in the front. Because you know what? You know, I found out they do right now is that they mess with the radio. And I'm like, now you will keep your hands to yourself. And like I was driving any tries to tickle my leg. And I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. This isn't a thing we do while we're driving a car, guys. They're not they don't know when they're there's their first time. So I have to kind of be like, maybe I need to sit down and have a conversation about it. Like, first of all, you're not the DJ. OK, because I don't I don't want to listen to fishy on me or whatever song you're going to play on YouTube. What are eight year olds and 10 year olds listening to now? Fortnite soundtrack. Yeah, pretty much. Yeah, it's like what is even that? And I'm sure random pop songs, you know, random pop. I mean, I just put it on like hits one on XM and that's fine. And I like to put it on if they're being bad. I put on the highway, which is like today's country. And then like, oh, country.

31:22Hey, you don't stop arguing. We're going to listen to this the whole way. Kelsey Ballerini, Luke Bryan, the whole thing. Let's go. Yep. Morgan Wayland is your god for the next hour. Yes. And I like that stuff. I like I dig it now, but like they're like, dad, I don't want to listen to this. I'm like, man, I don't want to listen to you complain. So we're going to be where I guess we're at an impasse, aren't we? Huh? Do you let your wife DJ when she sits in the front seat? Oh, yeah. OK. I mean, it's making sure it's 100 percent. Yeah, no, yeah. He called him the her the queen. She's the copilot. Yeah, the copilot. Oh, when my wife's in the car, the only thing I do is get us to and from safely. I control my own heated seat. Other than that, there and the the greatest invention in the world is that dual climate thing in the car. Yeah. Because can you imagine the fights? I'm hot. I'm cold. I don't know. What am I supposed to do? Like, I guess I'll just be sweating the whole time because you're cold. And I don't want to have that fight. And I'm not. I'm just all right.

32:23Let's go here. Just a little bit. Let's do it. We got it. My car. My wife has a car that has massaging seats. What? It's a Jeep Grand Cherokee. All right. It's not it's not like it's a Jeep Grand Cherokee, but it has massaging seats. So now that I have a Jeep Wrangler, yeah, does not have massaging seats. But it's a nice car. Yeah. And we get in the car today and William gets in the front seat. And I'm as a hybrid. So it's a plug in and then we parked. So I'm unplugging it and I get in the car and Matthew says, Dad, you'll never believe you. You didn't hear what William just said about your car. And I'm like, OK, I get in the car and I go, what did you say about my car? And he goes, nothing. No, I love your car. And he said your car is doodoo because it doesn't have massaging seats. Which then was a 30 minute conversation around financing and vehicles. And when you buy your own car, you can start gauging. We literally got halfway home and he goes and he looked at me, he goes, bro, because I'm on break from school.

33:24My brain literally hurts. I need no more math. Stop. I was like, OK, are you done complaining about my car yet? I just do. You know, the real lesson I just told you, you know, really just happened there. Sometimes those are fun, dad, conversations. They are just to that point now where they understand some of this stuff and doing math homework with them. So like, I'm never going to use fractions in real life. So now every single time we're talking about a percentage or a fraction or three quarters, like, yeah. Do you like this basketball game? Yeah, we're in the first quarter. Do you know what that is? That's one fourth. That's the one fourth of the game. Yeah. Do you know how I know that fractions at halftime? Do you want half? One half is a two fourths, two fourths. You take two divides into two and a four and a one, two. That's one half. It's halftime fractions. Yes. Now, when they get into calculus, you're like, no, that one. Oh, yeah. Right now is great. Two years from now, you'll be like, no, seriously, I don't understand the point.

34:26Can you please just pass the class? Yes. I think in Mathnasium, they'll teach you that. Come on. How does that house Chagos go? And I know since we met up last, you opened up Chagos, your company kind of bought over, did all that process. Yeah, you know, it's been going really well. I mean, we're going to take a quick break to hear me talk about our sponsors. And again, we're in this this time of gratitude. And I just want to talk really quickly because this isn't my show. But I want to talk about Robbins Insurance. If you out there need insurance of any kind, your car insurance, if you need to insure your restaurant, if you need to insure anything, Robbins Insurance is a local provider that will absolutely take care of you. And Matthew Clements over there is a local guy and he is amazing. I just love every time I get to talk to him. We work with them, both of our restaurants. He's so helpful and it's so easy to get a hold of him. That is what you need to be doing. If you need an insurance company, Robbins Insurance. Also, I want to tell you, if you are a restaurant and you need bread, fresh baked bread every single day, then Sharpies Bakery is for you.

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37:39I think that just like the perception, people coming in didn't know what to expect. Reopening Chagos like, is it going to be the same thing? Is it a bit different? I think most people like, oh, wow, the vibe in here is good. It's vibrant. It's bright. Music's good. The drinks are good. The food is good. Like full service restaurant. It's been great because the weather's really nice. I like the garage doors open and then the community. You know what? The Belmont community. Has been so incredible. Like just not just the student body, the student body has been. They're so kind and respectful and like the students have been fantastic. But just the overall community of teachers and professors and just the athletic team, you know, we sponsor the basketball teams. So all of the athletic people and just they're so fantastic. They're just such great people. They've been so wonderful to get to know and to work with. I way underestimated that relationship.

38:42And I have just been in love with it. Do you guys have a relationship with their. Lunch or dinner, like I know for bread and company, we had they had a Vanderbilt card that they. Oh, like Bruin bucks. Can you? Yeah, we don't know. We haven't done that. Yeah. And I'll tell you, we're about to start a new happy hour and looking from eight to 10 a happy hour. Everything's going to be 25% off and we're going to have some cheaper drinks and I think the three dollar PBR tall boys and some special menu items cool to really attract more students. Yeah. But we open the restaurant. We weren't intending for it to be for the students, which is a little, you know, we're the that's I think that's the difference before is that every there was a student hang. And now we've really reformulated it for the community. So we really made it for the people who live right behind where we are right now.

39:43I mean, the people who live in this neighborhood around here, who live on Belmont Boulevard, 12 South, the whole Belmont Hillsborough area. We wanted to create a local restaurant that catered to them. It wasn't because there's so many people come in and they go, oh, there's all this student body here. Let's create something for the college kids. Yeah, of course. Yeah. And now we came in and we're kind of like we're we're not doing this for the college kids. And no, we're not not doing it for the college kids. We wanted to make something that was for the family of four, family of five that lived by there that loves Mexican food. But once somewhere they can walk to, that's going to be consistent. And it's healthy with seven salads on the menu. It does not just refried beans and six different things made up in different ways like more than just cheese and beans there. Yeah, I mean, we have cilantro, lime rice, and we have black bean, refried black beans, and we have, you know, like a avocado salmon and we have a filet and we have Beria Hoagies and like like different items that aren't necessarily, you know, all of a combination.

40:44Number seven. Yeah. Yeah. You know, and that's that how the old one was. I don't I've never went to. No, I don't think the old one was necessarily like that. I think it was more tacos and burritos. And, you know, they had a dish called a cheesy chicken or something like that, like the. It felt similar going to Los Palmas. Yeah, like it was a local Mexican restaurant as a dig toward Los Palmas. But yeah, I'll go and I'll go to the number five lead, like two enchiladas with some rice and beans and fill up on chips. But it's a place that you could like go to somewhere else in another neighborhood. Yeah, it'd be the same, same. Yeah, I mean, I remember whenever I went into Chagos, like a couple of weeks ago. Yeah, just how bright it is inside compared to how it was before. Drastically different. I was like, oh, I can actually see the walls now. How was your experience? It was really good. I thought wait stuff was super nice. I kind of walked up to the bar to go order and like to sat there, hung out, talked. Anyone who was working there stopped and was like, hey, how are you doing? Like everyone stopped and talked. Food was good, especially for to go food. You know, that's always like the to eat somewhere. And your first time is to go is kind of ballsy.

41:46It's a little I don't like that. But, you know, we had gone to boot the zoo before and severely underestimated how much dinner we had had. So we both got out and we're like, I am starving. So I was like, hey, I have this. Let's go try out Chagos. So well, I will. I'll do a little promotion. You're going to be a part of the Nashville scenes. Taco week. I think that starts on December the fourth. OK, OK. Not I'm sorry, but we're going to be doing a barrier taco and rice and beans for five bucks. Oh, nice. So if you were like, hey, Chagos, I want to give that a shot. So during that week, we'd love to have you out. This is dining only. We want you to come in and see what we've done with the place. If you want to take it to go, that's fine. But you have to come in to order it. You can't order on the phone. You have to come into the bar and order it because I want you to walk into the building and go, oh, wow, this is really neat. I need to come back here and eat sometime. So we are doing our barrier taco, which is delicious. I mean, it's something I've eaten. I think I've eaten like 50 of them so far. Yeah, it's out of control.

42:48Are you guys open every day? Every single day. Awesome. Yeah, every day. And we do brunch now. I'm going to go tonight. Yeah. Yeah. And I've got some more for you, too. I'm going to hook you guys up with a bunch of little $25 gift cards. Maybe you guys can run a contest after after this runs or something. I'll give you 10 $25 gift cards. OK. Right. And on those, they're only good for 90 days. You have to you have to use them within nine days. But maybe you guys can do some kind of a you can give them at the dabble. Yeah. Give them away. Or you could do something on Instagram where you say, hey, look, share and like this and we'll give you some. We'll give you a $25 gift card to Chagos if you do. Tag a friend you want to take or something like that. You know, something like that. Anything to help promote what you guys are doing. And maybe this episode. But December 4th through 10th, we're going to be doing five dollar barrier tacos, so that would go a long way with a $25 card. Yeah, that's awesome. Yeah. How much work goes into opening up a new restaurant? So much work. Yeah, because I don't know many people at all. You know what? It really takes a good visionary. OK.

43:50But to change everything and to do everything in our visionary is Stephen, who's the owner of the restaurant. He has just such a crystal clear vision of what he wants to do. And then you have to have somebody who can execute that vision. And that's his brother, Christopher. So they're such an amazing team. I really wasn't a part of so much of this until. Four or five weeks out. OK, I mean, they went in that building and I did. I helped with the negotiations on the front end, how we're going to get the thing done and what we're going to need to do it. I mean, his vision of what we want to do. And then he talked to his brother and then they doubled the size of the kitchen. They, you know, ran all new beer lines. I negotiated some of the deals to get some of the stuff done. But for the most part, I came in and I was like, wow, you guys have really done a hell of a job. And then the operational side is where I really kick in. You know, a few weeks before we open hiring training. That's been my the most special thing to me is just the the teaching of our core values to a whole bunch of people who.

44:55The restaurant industry has such a toxic culture in general. There's so many amazing people in this industry that are beating that. But in general, if you come from like a corporate chain where you're treated like a a number and management is bad and they yell at you and they shame you and they do it, there's a lot of sexism, misogynists, opportunities for abuse, opportunities for abuse. Yeah. And I mean, just the job itself is so stressful. And you've got to be able to understand that and show empathy and real leadership. But teaching our core values to a new group of people and having leaders in the building that understood who we were and what we do. The response has been so special to see people come in and work there and be like, oh, you guys actually mean this stuff. Like, you're not just saying this stuff in some corporate letterhead orientation. Like, you actually live this way. This is what you do. And to see people start to thrive, who have kind of traditionally been like, oh, I've never worked in a restaurant like this where we all help each other and where people actually care. Yeah. It's always just been this is my section and don't have up and do your thing.

45:58And people really genuinely care. And they've started to flourish and they've bought it. And like you said, you were at the bar and you had how many people come by and say, hey, man, how you doing? Like, good to see you here. Like, we genuinely care about your experience. And the staff like had their serious buy in for that. And that's when the magic really starts to happen because they they see it, they feel it, and it starts to happen. And it's it's so much fun. Yeah. And so that that's where we're at. We kind of feel like the recipe for this great location that we're in, really good, consistent food with really great service and a great atmosphere is that's what you've just got to have in a good restaurant, for a good restaurant to every time you go there. Like, oh, no, it was great service was great. The food is great. The vibe was great. Like parking sucked. But that's most places now. I mean, parking was terrible, but we Ubered. So it didn't matter. You know, like if you can hit all those things, I think you're going to be successful. Yeah. And that's the great part about Belmont and 12 south as you can Uber. And it doesn't take you an hour to get there, like downtown and all those other places. Oh, yeah.

47:03Oh, man, we went downtown. We went and saw Bert Kreischer. Oh, yeah. The other night. Yeah. Yeah, that's we saw him at Bridgestone the other night. Just an interesting show. Yeah. But we went to Boca Ria before anybody was having a birthday party there. And we weren't it was at 60. We weren't able to stay for the birthday party. But we were like, well, hey, let's go to dinner there. And then when they all then that party arrives, get to see my friend. Yeah. Say hello. Give him a card and then we'll walk across the street. Downtown's out of control. It's a bit much. It is so much. It's a bit much. I just. Oh, my. Oh, my gosh, so much. I'm going to go to Predscam tomorrow night because a friend was like, have an extra ticket. Do you want to go? And I'm like, all right, cool. I'll start prepping mentally around 3 p.m. OK, cool. How's this going to look? I'm going to be a little overstimulated. There's going to be a lot going on. And here we go. I think I've realized that, like, I am. I use this word with my wife. And she's like, that's not it's not appropriate, honey. I said, I'm domesticated.

48:04Like, I really am. Like, I'm happy at home with her and with my kids or like at work. Yeah. But I don't really like that scene. I don't like it. Yeah. They before the Burt Christ show, they had like a tops off cam, you know, like, well, so you're waiting there before the show. Yeah. And then, you know, Burt Christ comes out and he takes his shirt off. And so this kind of lights dim. And you think then that this camera comes on on the big screen and it says tops off cam and they start going around the crowd and men start taking off their shirts and like dancing. And it really got the crowd going. And it was really comical. But I was like, this isn't this isn't my I'm good. This isn't my thing. Like, I don't I don't know. It was just different. And people got so rowdy. Yeah. And I was like, I know I'm not I'm not. Maybe I I'm just going to if I watch this on TV, I would be fine.

49:05Yeah, I would be fine watching this on television. Yeah. It's like going to a Titans game, like being on a bunch of drunk people, yelling and cussing and just kind of like out in the wild. And like, I just like being at home. I like being at home. It's it's crazy, huh? I I've I've wanted to go see his show because I've never I've never seen him. I've seen like Tom Segura and Joe Rogan and Dave Chappelle. But their shows are nothing like what I just heard from him. Oh, he was funny. I mean, it's funny. There's some stuff in there that was questionable. Yeah. To me, just in my politics. But like, but the craziness. Yeah. But it was it was just a whoa. Yeah. OK, I like if you're a Bridgestone, you got to get the crowd amped up. If you're like Zanies, you're in a room with like 50 people and like but Bridgestone, you have to bring energy. And what does it take to bring energy? Stupid stuff. Oh, the production, like the idea to do that. Yeah. Like is. I was watching that going, oh, this is brilliant. Especially for a comedy show, because you got to think, dude, it's not like Pearl Jam can come out and open with a song.

50:09And everybody's like, oh, I love this song. Right. Comedians, there has to be like a warm up. Yeah. And they had a couple of warm up acts that were dynamite funny. And the guys that opened up for him were so funny. I didn't even know. Just crying, laughing. Yeah. And then Bert, I thought it was going to be like 10 different. I thought it was like Bert Kreischer hosts a bunch of comedians. I didn't even know it was just a Bert Kreischer show. That's how I got the tickets like six months ago. And it was like all these people on the bill. And I was like, oh, this is going to be fun. We're going to see a bunch of comedians. And then it was like, oh, no, this is an hour and 25 minutes of Bert Kreischer doing comedy. OK. And so you had two openers. But like just the idea of doing that top soft cam, the whole crowd was like ready to go. By the time the first comedian came out, it was like everybody's already laughing. They're there. They're ready to go. And so, I mean, it was brilliant production wise. Like, OK, I see what you're doing. But I immediately was like, I'm good. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, my poor, my poor wife's just sitting there like, you're not taking off your shoes.

51:15I don't feel comfortable right now. Like it was like, oh, like, I don't know. And I was like, we should. I'm a homebody. I'm good. I like I like Mike. I should try to go. Where's the best place to go? Where's your favorite place to go? And I'm like, my living room? Yeah, I have a really nice couch. My HD television. It's fantastic. I have on demand now. And after about two or three years of going downtown Nashville, you're like, all right, I've had my fair share. I saw it. I don't need it anymore. Yep. Pretty much. I married for 18 years and been together for 20 years with my wife. Like, we're so I say institutionalized. Like, I I'm most comfortable around her. Like, she I'm I'm a little weird. Like, I'm just me and I don't like I'm most comfortable with her hanging out with her laying in bed watching our shows. Yeah. And just kind of like talking. And that's the end of night. Like, that's the connect. Like, that is where I am in my like my total kids coming in. Hey, guys. And they're just laying with us.

52:15Like, yeah, I don't want to be anywhere else. And I'm like, I don't have FOMO. Like, I'm like, that's the place I want to be. Yeah. Yeah. And it's weird because that's where I'm at now. And it almost made me feel like you're at this show. And there's like all these people that are just like getting after it. And just like the dude who sat down next to me had two beers and a beer he was holding. And his girl got up and I'm and I'm just like a hundred dollars a beer. Yeah. But I'm like, I just was sitting there. I was just like, man, you got to have like 60 ounces of beer here to like enjoy this. Like, this is a thing. I don't. And I was just like, oh, man, that I don't I don't just I'm there. I'm not. You have to get up six times to go pee during this show. You're going to miss out the show because you're going to be peeing the entire time. I never saw a restroom the whole time I was at the Birdstone Arena. Yeah. Now I was like, it's kind of nice. Yeah. The the nine dollar water wasn't nice, but it's OK. It's part of it, sadly. No.

53:15Yeah, I'm just I'm kind of boring now. Yep. But I'm happy. Yeah. So that's the key, right? It is. So to be respectful of your time, since we met up last, we now end every episode with asking every guest the same five questions. Yeah. So, Justin, we got 20 minutes. We got 20 minutes to do five questions. Then then then then then then then fill their music. Sorry, I didn't know the Titans scored again. Listen, I as the producer of the podcast, I try to be respectful of people's time. And when they say, hey, I got to leave by this time. I want to. OK. It's a thing. It is a thing. I know. Very good of you, Dan. All right. First question. What were your kids backup names if you had any? I don't think we did. William Coleman was he was the first grandson in both sides of our families. So my dad's middle name is William. Her dad's middle name is Coleman. OK. Yeah. It was both of the grandfather's middle names.

54:19And we loved it together. William Coleman. Still, it was just so we have William Coleman. And then Matthew was back and forth. I don't remember the different names on Matthew. But Everett, his middle name is my grandfather's middle name. And there's four other Everett's in the family. And so he was my favorite person on this planet. Yeah, my grandfather, my mother's father. And so I wanted to honor him with his middle name being. And so we kept the effort going. So he's Matthew Everett. That's cool. And we actually liked Everett as a first name, too. But we wanted to we wanted to go traditional. Yeah. And we also went we wanted to make sure that we wanted the long form versions, not Will and Matt, like it's William and Matthew. Yeah. Which coincidentally has made me very cognizant of people's full names. Yeah. We have Steven, not Steve, Steven. Yeah. His brother, Christopher, who is our kind of our corporate chef. Never seen so funny.

55:21Now I'm like I'm like defend the shit out of him. When we meet somebody, some guy walk in from Cisco or something and be like, hey, man, I'm like, hey, nice to meet you. I'm Brian. He's like, nice to meet you, Brian. I go, this is our chef, Christopher. He's like, nice to meet you, Chris. I go, his name isn't Chris. His name is I will go. I introduced him as he just said, it's Christopher. And you said, why did you his buddy? Why did you just shorten it to Chris? Yeah. Like it's not. So I've been very cognizant of that now when people introduce themselves as a name or I'll ask, I'll say, do you prefer to be called Christopher or Chris? Yeah, because I want to respect that, of course. Yeah. Yeah. That's the thing. Yeah. My name is Richard. All right, Dick. Yeah. Well, it's like my name is William. All right, Bill. Like, yeah, no, no, it's William. You can call me Bill. I won't be responding. Yeah, exactly. Next question. Who is your favorite TV dad? Oh, wow. Who is my favorite TV dad? Walter White. Hold on. No, I don't know.

56:24He does what it takes to support his family. Say my say my name. I don't know what. Yeah, that's right. Heisenberg. Heisenberg. Yes. I don't know. I don't know if I have a favorite. You can do like movie, just media in general. People say like Uncle Phil from French Prince of Bel Air. We've gotten Phil Dunphy from Modern Family consistently. I'd have to think about it. It'll I'm going to pause that one and let my subconscious work. Let the let the Rolodex, it's in my brain. By the way, we were in a meeting of the day and somebody said, it's like a Rolodex going around. And I said, and I said, time out, time out. I go, hey, Carissa, you know, she doesn't know what a Rolodex is. I got junior Rolodex. She's like, I have no idea. And I was like, this is the thing you used to put phone numbers in. And this is it would go around and until you found the name and then you'd find that she was like, I've never even heard of that before.

57:24And it was just one of those funny moments where you're like, I use the term Rolodex. Yeah. Let my brain think on it. I don't even know my favorite. I mean, I like I'm like Dexter. You're very dark. Was a very good dad. I mean, yeah, he was a terrible dad. If you think about the reboot, like the final season. Yeah, I like season four and beyond. I just really bad, really bad dad. Dexter's dad was really bad, too. Yeah, I I'm trying to I don't remember any TV dads right now. So I'll think of something here in a little bit. Yeah, I don't think we've really talked about ours, have we? I mean, someone asked us at once. I said, when I what's your favorite TV? When I think of a TV dad, I think of Homer Simpson. Awful TV dad. But if I think of like American culture, who is an American dad? Homer Simpson. Who do I think America's dad is? Tom Hanks, probably nowadays. So can't say Bill Cosby, can't say Bill Cosby, can't say Bill Cosby anymore. Constant response that is people being like, well, it was Bill Cosby.

58:25And so they raped all those people. I mean, that's, you know, the thing. Yeah, that drugging just for some reason. Not good fatherhood material. But Clark Griswold for me, I feel like you would. Clark Griswold would be OK. That's that's where I'm going to go there, too. OK, thank you for saying that, because I'm like my brain's going on. Like, no, I am. I am Clark Griswold. Yeah, that's 100 percent confidence. He was just I mean, overall, just a goofy, goofy ass man, but he was Clark. And if you see my house right now, you're like, yeah, you channel him well. It's a whole that's your ideal. But he again, everything about him was for his family. Like that was it just it was everything. And he's quirky like it's just he identify with the most. Yeah. And I'm going to I'm going to go with that, too. Go with that. That's 100 percent good answer. Thank you for the recommend. Another good one. I can't remember the last name, but it's Chet from The Great Outdoors. Or Chester, is it John Candy?

59:27I can't. OK. Chester, I think, is his full name. I call him Chet, but I can't remember the last name, but he was a good one as well. I just remember Big Bear, Big Bear, Chase. It's a good one. They slam through the door. Yep. Yep. All right. Lee, did I say least favorite kid show or movie? One that probably your two sons watch a million times and just drives you insane. Or one from your childhood? I think Barney. Oh, was was kind of I was like I had nephews or cousins that were were the watch Barney that would just drive me crazy. I kind of like all my kids shows. Oh, really? Like I even like the Paw Patrol. Really? OK. Like Paw Patrol and never got old. Yeah. I mean, I besides the obvious, like, why does this kid have all this money to buy airplanes and like these jetsuits financing? How come when the town has problems, they call puppies?

01:00:31Like, I don't structure of what is going on here. And why is the mayor of the next town not in jail? Like, I don't know. There's so many logical questions that I have, but I still I can watch it through their eyes. Yeah. And I see their eyes light up and watch and it just that does. But there's actually there's not like a bad show. I mean, they're all they're all like the movie Cars, like it's my favorite movies of all time. Like, that's just a classic. I mean, there's all these little movies that they've watched. I just so I think Barney was probably the one that I've heard the most that I just don't understand. Or maybe like the Power Rangers, because that was one also that I just never got. But I mean, I but that was again, I was like a teenager when I had these kids. I like all my kids shows. OK. But the best kind of surprising thing is like, all right, take all this stuff like they get into Harry Potter. And I was like, oh, yeah, it's actually pretty good. I wouldn't watch these alone. But now that you're here and I'm like, these are dark and these are awesome. Fascinating. I have been turned on to so much cool TV and movies because I can't just watch rated art, dark Dexter type stuff with my wife.

01:01:41We have to watch stuff with them. So we there's a lot of really good stuff out there. There's good Christmas stuff, too. Yeah. Next question. What's your favorite kids toy? Like whenever your kids play with it, you like playing it with them as well. Probably the Nerf guns. We have these laser guns. They're like you have to wear a vest. Oh, it's like at home laser tag laser tag. And you charge the guns and then like you put them on. You can like load how many you get, like 50 points. You hit 50 times and then you're out. Yeah. And then there's like a counter on the actual gun. But we can get in the house like on a cold day and everybody gets these things on. You turn the lights off, whatever, and you just run around the house shooting each other is probably the because it's like a workout. But also that you're screaming and the kids are going crazy. And it's like. I always win, too. It's a it's a thing. And I'm like the biggest target. Yeah. But no, we have that's the the nerf guns and that kind of stuff, because it's just it's fun.

01:02:46It's fun and exciting. I don't play video games, so it's not a it's like the the PS five now. I'm good. Yeah. We do like we golf sometimes. I still have a we. Yeah. So that's kind of fun, like getting out there doing that stuff. Yeah. But mostly I'd say that those laser tag gun is probably the best. I'm hoping my kids get into nerf guns at some point in time because I want to play with them. Well, last night we went to and there's a park in Cool Springs called Impact, the letter M, P, I, C, T, Impact Sports Park. We went to a birthday party and it's a nerf gun arena. So you just show up there, you have to put goggles on. Yeah, of course. And then they have all these guns and the place is just littered with bullets. And there's like there's like a dugout for the parents to sit in. It's like, you know, like if you like Dodger Stadium, it's like the seats right behind home play. There's like the screen. They have these big rooms, like these party rooms with these big screens. And you can just sit there and watch your kids. There's all these obstacles and they hide and they just. Yeah.

01:03:47There's not like a score cap. They just shoot the shit of each other. But like, but they're they came out. They were sweating and they had so much fun and just sitting there watching these kids play Nerf Wars last night was was epic. Yes, that is in Cool Springs. OK, I imagine you can rent it out if you wanted to do like an all parent like thing. A lot of waivers to be signed. If that was the situation, you will get hurt. But having eight, nine year olds run around that place for an hour and a half, they were they were beat red and sweating and like it was great. Yeah, that's awesome. It's fun just to see that. Yeah. But if you're a parent out there and you didn't know that was a thing, there is a thing like that in Cool Springs called impact, impact sports, the letter M packed. Yeah, awesome. I'm going to have to definitely save that. Next question, last question. What moment of your kid's life are you most excited to be a part of? I think that this is a loaded question because there's not one.

01:04:50Yeah, I mean, I think that. I every moment, I really I kind of like that sports thing, you know, it's like I want to be a part of like the greatest successes. But I also want to be a part of the greatest failures. You know, like I don't see one obviously one's better than the other. But just that just seeing them develop and grow. Getting their first car, I mean, there's but there's so many milestones. Yeah. You know, I think I don't even know if there's just a proud thing or the moment in their life. I'm scared to death of them. All right. This is the moment. I think I've got it when I get to meet a grandchild. OK. When they. Get to feel the amount of love.

01:05:52Yeah. That you feel when you become a parent. Yeah. When you get to, like, hold your own child. It's special. And then, you know, one of the things my William doesn't say, I love you. If I say, I love you, buddy. He's like, love you more. He always says, love you more. That's just what he says. And I'm like, dude, if you only knew, if you you just. And I think in that moment, I grew really close to my dad in that moment, because I was like, holy shit, you really. I had no idea how much I meant to you. I only knew external factors and what the middle child syndrome and all this shit. You know, I didn't realize you weren't perfect and that you love me this much, how much you've sacrificed in your life and like all of those things. I think when they become parents, if they become I don't. And if they don't, that's OK. And I'm sure I've got two, one of them will.

01:06:53I don't I don't know. But I think that welcoming a grandchild to me and that's how old I am now. And they're 10, you know, but I think that exciting moment in my life would be there at the hospital. Yeah. Now, I mean, you got really amazing. When you hold your first kid, you go through the first two to three years of being a parent. You're like, well, my parents cared a lot more than I realize. And I don't need that validation. No, but there's a reality to it. There's a reality to it. But I I want. It was the most special thing in my I didn't realize I had the capacity to love that much. I didn't know that that was even a thing. Like you, you go through these relationships in your life where you you love and you know what love is. There's romantic love and then there's parental love. There's sibling love. There's best friend love. There's fleeting love, you know, that you have in high school and these different things.

01:07:55But until you have your own kid and they look you in the eye and you're like. There's nothing you can do. Like there's it's all almost conditional until that moment. And at that moment, it's like I would I would die for you today. Like there's no and your heart just expands so much. And I think that seeing. Them have realizing that that moment when they go. Oh, it's not all about me, like everything changes and I just. And I think that's going to be a moment in my life that I'm really. I think it'd be cool, but I'm looking forward to every single high, every single low, every moment, just sharing. These experiences in life with them. That's the thing. That's so every single one. Yeah, that's that. I mean, some of the questions to like just speak to your heart and what you care about and what you're excited about.

01:08:59And there's really no wrong. Now, yeah, I think it's I don't want to cop out like everyone. I was the one, though. It's hard to comprehend how much love has been poured into you. And I think once you have your own kid, you start to realize like, oh, I've been loved for a very long time. I have told myself I wasn't worth loving at times, and I was wrong in most of those scenarios because a lot of people love me and care about me. I think on the other side of that, I recognize how blessed I am. Yeah, I mean, to to recognize that I did receive that love, which I think also opens my heart so much to recognize how many children don't get that. How many children genuinely don't have parents that see it that way, that our kids are a burden to them and they don't they don't genuinely have that love. And that breaks my heart. Like it absolutely breaks my heart. So, I mean, there's that side of it, too.

01:10:00It can also be something that you just think like, man, how do we help more children? How do I want more children to feel that genuine love? I know my kids know there's a foundation of like, my dad's got my back, my mom has my back. Like they there's a foundation of love there that they know is there. And it kills me to think that children don't have that in any any other place. And I wish I could give that love to every child. But it's it's a it's a sad reality. Yep. Honestly. Here's before we end. Do you want to promote like your Instagram handles? I mean, you've got natural restaurant radio. You've got Chagos. Anything you want to promote in this moment? I I'll promote the Nashville dads. Hey, there we go. You guys are amazing. I'm going to if you guys let me, I'll simulcast this episode on my channel. I do have three restaurants, Maribol, Green Hills Grill and Chagos Cantina on Belmont Chagos Belmont Cantina.

01:11:04And then I do host Nashville Restaurant Radio, which is a weekly podcast where we talk to restaurant owners, building the community in the hospitality industry, the behind the scenes from all of your favorite restaurants. We've done three hundred and sixty shows. Yeah, you've been. Yeah. So we're or March will be four years we've been doing it. That's awesome. You can find it anywhere you listen to podcasts. I mean, if you have a favorite restaurant in town that you like and you're like, oh, we love eating at Loughlin table. Like, but their vegetables are really good. Well, we've had the guy who grows their vegetables, Chris from White Squirrel Farms with Hal talking about the rock minerals that they place in and why their vegetables are happier and how they gauge how happy their vegetables are and why Chris at White Squirrel Farms sells his vegetables to Hal because Hal treats his vegetables with respect. Yeah. And that shows up in the overall chi of your vegetable when you eat it, because happy vegetables taste better. That was an interesting conversation.

01:12:05And I love sharing those type conversations with people. So if you ever wonder, like, man, the vegetables at Loughlin table are fantastic. You can go back and hear the entire story as to why that is. Or if you like the city house or you want to know about the next new restaurant, Noco or whatever, you know, is happening. Typically, we've talked to the owner or the the chef or somebody general manager in that restaurant. We've heard their story. We don't talk a lot about food. Yeah. It's not like, what's your favorite dish on the menu? It's about the people. Kind of like, you know, it's just a thing. And we have a lot of fun. My co-host is Caroline Galzin. She owns Nicky's coal fired with her husband, Tony. Recently, we've been doing a fantasy football show. Me and Tony have, which is just a dumb. He and I, we have a fantasy football league that we are doing right now to benefit the giving kitchen. If you don't know what the giving kitchen is, it is an organization that helps restaurant workers. So it's just restaurant workers, if you're hurt and you can't pay your bills, they come in and they help. That's awesome. Go check them out at the giving kitchen dot org and learn more.

01:13:06They're amazing. You said plugs. I'm just going to keep going until that. I mean, when is your clock in? I got three minutes. Yeah, you got to get you. We actually had we had Max from the bagel shop on and he like walked in. He was like, I signed over there. Yes. Thanks a lot. Thanks a lot. They were so much fun. He's a fun guy. He's really fun. They were both of them. They are like two of my favorite people. Just awesome, awesome people. Yep. Well, Brandon, thanks again for being our first repeat guest. It is an honor. Thank you guys and congratulations on all of your success out here. I love that there is this platform for dads. We're talking about dads and dad life, man. You know, I know no hate to like mom life, but dads is being a dad is probably the best title I've ever had in my life. And it's an easy title to get. But it's a it's an it's an honor to be part of the show the second time.

01:14:08And I love that you guys get to do this in the studio. And it's just it's a lot of fun. It is. I agree. Well, thank you again for letting us do this and figure it all out. Yeah, man. You got you guys are all part of it. Thank you. All right. Thanks. Talk to you later. Yep.